Social constructionist approaches underline that identity is constantly negotiated. It emerges in everyday actions and behavioral patterns, fleeting comments by the participants in the social events. Values and attitudes are promoted and confronted. This paper studies membership categorization and pragmatic code-switching in the Swedish Estonian refugee community, demonstrating the fragile balance between the ‘Estonian’ and the ‘Swedish’. The speakers orient to Estonian Estonian as the target variety, while frequently using Swedish for sense-making. The analysis is based on audio and video recordings of Swedish Estonian club activities and research interviews.